Wedding March
During the wedding march, many brides will blush.
There are also some who will throw up, faint or worse yet, runaway
in the middle of wedding march. If there is such thing as wedding
jitters, there is also jitter specifically for wedding march.
There are many brides who feel happy preparing for their event,
planning and coordinating services,
finding the wedding dress and
even creating their own poetry.
But when it is time for them to walk down the aisle, they suddenly
have this extreme fear of the unknown.
To avoid extreme nervousness when walking down the aisle and to
stop from doing a Julia Roberts, try to understand the possible
causes of common wedding march jitters and some tips on how to overcome
them.
Causes of Wedding March Anxiety
Causes of nervousness and cold feet differ with various types of
brides. There are those who don't know that they will have a phobic
reaction during a wedding march, until they are in the middle of
it.
On the other hand, other brides are aware that they may have wedding
march angst because of a phobia or extreme inhibitions of being
in front of others. Jitters may also be caused by some underlying
medical causes such as over fatigue (during event preparation),
lack of sleep and food, and nervousness caused by mild anxiety disorder
such as social anxiety.
Some Recommended Solutions
To avoid wedding march heebie-jeebies, the first thing that you
must do is to ask yourself, will I feel jittery during my wedding
march? If you are the type of person who has had or is experiencing
wobbly knees every time you speak in public, there is a big possibility
that you might have trouble with the wedding march.
After you have assessed yourself, think of the common ways that
you normally try calm yourself down to stop the wobbling knees.
If you like to breathe in and out deeply a couple of times to calm
yourself, then try to practice this technique months before the
wedding with visualization of the actual event. This way, when the
time comes, your heart, body and mind will be in synchronicity.
The next thing to do is to actually do a few dry runs and practice
the wedding march. Practicing makes perfect, as they say, and it
affords you a chance to get accustomed to the idea of marching down
the aisle.
Sometimes the cause of anxiety is the feeling of maybe you will
do something wrong and the blunder may cause you and your husband
to be a laughing stock of guests even after the wedding. Some brides
like to visualize the "worst case scenario" and then say
to themselves that if they can cope with the worst case while walking
down the aisle then they can also cope with lesser foibles while
doing the wedding march.
Another solution is to think about your husband and try to focus
your attention to him and only to him during the march. There are
many distractions a few minutes before the actual march and during
the wedding march itself. At times you might even hear a couple
of guests (probably your husband's) who seem not to see anything
good about the wedding program or even at you.
Try to ignore these types of guests. They are nuisances to you
and your husband even if they are relatives. Just think of them
as simply bystanders whom you will only meet just once and then
do your wedding march in defiance of their negativity.
Remember, that the most important thing at the end of your wedding
march is your spouse. The march is just the short journey to get
to the goal at the end, which is saying "I do" to happily
ever after.
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